It started in the garden of Eden. After Adam fell—plunging mankind into spiritual ruin—God warned Eve of the tension between authority and rebellion between she and her mate:
To the woman he said, "I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you." (Genesis 3:16 ESV)At first glance this "desire for" Adam sounds romantic. However, it is not. Keil & Delitzsch noted it to be a, "desire bordering upon disease (תְּשׁוּקָה from שׁוּק to run, to have a violent craving for a thing)". Some in modern scholarship believe that God is telling her, to paraphrase, "As a result of the Fall your desire will be to rule your husband but he will rule you."
The battle of the sexes.
There's no sense denying it. We know it's there. And that's what makes certain Scriptures hard—not for women to understand but to accept:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. (Ephesians 5:22-24 ESV)When we all get to heaven [and this competition is totally gone] what a day of rejoicing that will be!
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
(Colossians 3:18 ESV)